A New Book
Cowboy Boots and the Principle of Subtraction
The Question
We spend most of our lives trying to avoid pain. We push it down, pave over it with busy-ness and success, replace it with positive thinking and affirmations. But what if the way forward isn't around the pain—but through it?
What Hurts is an invitation to turn toward what you've been avoiding. Not to wallow in it, but to use it as a doorway into the deepest parts of yourself—the parts that hold real power, real clarity, and real peace.
"All discord is harmony not yet understood."— Alexander Pope
The Method
This book isn't about adding more beliefs or building a better version of yourself. It's about subtraction. Dissolving the conditioning, the harsh self-judgments, the survival paradigms that have been running your life from the background.
You'll learn to ask the question: What hurts?
And then to witness what arises—without judgment, without making it wrong, without trying to fix it. Just loving attention. This simple practice opens the door to a foundational harmony you may not have known was there.
What You'll Discover
The Witness — the part of you that can observe your own consciousness without getting caught in it. When you learn to rest here, suffering begins to dissolve.
The Guide — the deeper office of knowing that arises when you stop living from conditioning and fear. This is where real clarity lives.
The Principle of Subtraction — why trying to add more positivity, more beliefs, more strategies won't work. The real transformation comes from removing what you are not, so that what you are can be seen.
Your True Identity — beneath the temporary versions of yourself you've constructed, there's a timeless awareness. Once you touch it, everything changes.
Who This Is For
This book is for you if you've tried everything—the manifestation techniques, the positive thinking, the affirmations—and something still feels off.
If you're tired. If you can't say yes to opportunities that once would have fired you up. If you feel like you're carrying an invisible weight you can't identify.
If you're ready to stop running from what hurts and start using it as the doorway to real transformation.